Let go of bra size or weight as the definer of your beauty, followers or salary as the measurement of your value, or anniversaries or birthdays declaring your deservedness. Use the examples below or pick your own word! Then share your #BeyondMeasure word and tag @HurrayKimmay on Instagram or TikTok so we can say hurray inside, outside, and underneath together!

This is just the start. Now it’s time for you to embrace yourself BEYOND MEASURE. 

Love is the most powerful and most important force in the world. When you know you are loved inside (self-love and divine love), by others (and how to accept that love from those around you), and underneath (finding love or neutrality for your body), it makes it so much easier to pour love into those around you. 

And though Rent tried to measure “Seasons of Love”, the truth is there is no measurement for love. So you can’t quantify it with your follower count, salary, number of years married… etc. 

And many times, we’ve misunderstood who we have to be or from where we need to source love. I highly suggest starting on the “Inside”, with self and divine love. Knowing that God (who created the whole universe!) loves me unconditionally, even when I have a hard time fully loving myself, gives me a strong foundation for building all other love (and Beyond Measure words!) upon. 

Activity: write down affirmations that you can fully believe. If “I’m the most beautiful person in the world” doesn’t feel real to you, it won’t sink in and your mind will call you a liar. Instead, try something like “I am open to seeing my beauty”. Here are some examples you might want to try: 

• Love is all around me and within me 
• I am open to receiving love
• I am worthy of love from myself, God, and others 
• I am unconditionally loved by my creator 
• My body is my best friend 
• The most powerful force is love
• God is love 
• Learning to loving myself deeper and deeper benefits all around me 
• I receive love and pour it out to those around me 

Write these on sticky notes and onto a mirror in your home. Yes, actually do this. It can be a big beautiful one over a fireplace in Paris, or just the bathroom mirror. Then, put on some fun music to dance to, spa music to breathe to, or worship music to praise to, and soak it in. Look into the mirror, right into your eyes, and for every thought that pops into your head that isn’t loving or true, lovingly forgive yourself for buying into a misunderstanding, then replace it with a truth (aka an affirmation from above), and then celebrate with some gratitude. Breathe deep. This is powerful work and you are loved!

Self-forgiveness is one of my favorite practices, and I’ll walk you through how it works with my Self-Forgiveness Gifts. They range from a worksheet, a short guided meditation, and a full blown 60 minute workshop – all for free. 

ra·di·ant /ˈrādēənt/

adjective: radiant 1. sending out light; shining or glowing brightly.

The light within you can not be measured! It’s innate, and it’s always been there and will be there. And it is not meant to be hidden. It’s up to you how and with whom you share it, but it has likely been masked, covered up, or dimmed as the years went on. 

Sometimes we dim our lights because of fear of failure, fear of rejection, or fear of looking foolish. Surprise! These are actually all fear of being unloved. So go back to the first point and stand firm on how loved you are if you’re feeling wonky. 

Ready to shine your light? Remember: you have something within you that only you can share. Others are missing out on what only you can offer. Lovingly let go of any worries about being too much, not enough, or vain as an experiment and see how spreading your light affects and lights up the world around you.

Here are a few ideas to get started, or ramp it up!

• Reach out to encourage someone. Send a text, a postcard, or meme and spread some hurray!
• Identify something you’ve wanted to share, do, or create but put the lid on it. What is truly stopping you from taking a step toward that? And what can you do this week to go for it?
• Sign up for a class in something “shiny”, even if it’s terrifying. Painting, singing, improv, theater, public speaking, on camera hosting, a team sport, or walking club!
• Create business cards and find three in-person networking events in your area. Practice your intro to confidently share what you do and how you radiate into the world, and commit to handing out 100% of your business cards!
• Raise your hand and speak up to share advice, ask a question, or spread love. Don’t hide what’s within you.
• Book a photo shoot. Optional to book a stylist or hair and makeup, make it boudoir, for work, or to celebrate a birthday and HAVE FUN! Let your personality and love radiate from within.

Pick one (or more!) and see what makes you say hurray!

One of my favorite Beyond Measure words! Quick reminder: we are designed to need support. Even if you DIY (do it yourself), you don’t have to DIA (do it alone). I say this all the time in my Fitters’ Formula program. And as a solo small business owner who prides herself on being resourceful, bootstrapping it, or not “needing” anyone else, I really had to learn to welcome in support. I realized that my hyper independence was really a fear of being let down or being too needy. But the truth was, even as capable as I am, I could only go so far on my own. So I had to address the fears, welcome in the truth, and stand firm in the support. Support can come in many forms, including: 

• Inside: Internal support, encouragement, and tools that help your mind find peace, clarity, and love. 
• Outside: Accepting words and works of support from friends, loved ones, coaches, therapists, experts, or even strangers. 
• Underneath: supporting your body with undergarments that uplift (my speciality!) and foods nourish. 

After 21+ years of fitting folks for bras, I can tell you that a bra fitting and shopping for new bras is one of my most favorite ways to welcome in support. Mostly, because bras are right over the heart. So if there’s any shame (your bust is too much or not enough), discomfort (the bra is digging in or slipping down), or confusion (does this bra even fit?), it can close off the heart. But when you wear what what fits well, feels good, and looks amazing you can stand tall with your shoulders back, and heart out. Hurray!

Activity: Go bra bra shopping! And whether you go to an expert or DIY it, you don’t have to do it alone. Absolutely grab my Free Fit Guide so you can get the best fitting, most comfortable, and MOST supportive bras for yourself. 

Big thanks to La Vie En Rose, who sent over this super supportive strapless bra for my shoot in Paris (with cozy memory foam cups!). It has one of the most unique bands of criss crossing, supportive elastic that wraps around the body for (you guessed it) the best support. Imagine the freedom you will feel and what you can do when you’re not worried about a bra slipping down or digging in. Drop by their stores or shop online!

Though our joy cannot be measured, we can increase our access to it. In my many bouts with depression, I often felt that joy was inaccessible. It seemed as if I was in a well, filling with water, and the only accessible feelings inside the well were sadness, anger, shame, and hopelessness. I could see joy on the other side of the thick brick wall, but couldn’t reach it. If you are feeling that way, I have great news: you will feel joy again. 

The thing is, just as joy is not measurable, joy doesn’t go anywhere. It doesn’t leave you. You might just have a fuzzy connection, or lost the access temporarily. But it’s always there and will always return. Often, I think of the Psalm 30:5, “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” Sometimes those nights are more than an actual evening, and you may be tempted to feel like it will never end. But even in places like Alaska, where is can be dark and cold for many months, the darkness always eventually gives way to light. Deep breaths. Joy is coming. 

Note: it’s 100% ok to feel sad or to weep through the dark times. Feel it, process it, work with a great therapist (aka get some support as mentioned above!), or even medication. But never lose hope that joy is on its way. Hurray.

Activity: There are ways that you can nurture your access to joy. The first is to ask your heart “what brings me joy?” and then truly listen. Sometimes, we’ve simply lost sight of what even fills us with joy. It’s ok, just ask. Free write or visualize whatever comes up. I did this recently and what came up was not what I expected. I saw flashbacks to times that I was serving alongside others – singing, teaching, building homes, serving food, and volunteering. And always in community. So now, I make it a point to purposefully find or create opportunities to do those things. 

Another great way to nurture joy is to go back to little you, when maybe you were the most carefree and joyful. Ask 5 -7 year old you what brings them joy. Little me loved playing pretend, making art, creating, singing, and laughing with others. So, out come the water colors, karaoke, dancing in my living room, and dinner dates with girlfriends who light me up. I even went to pet and hold baby goats with a friend! Little me would have loved that. And sometimes, our younger selves are so wise when it comes to what we need now.

And a final suggestion: wear color and what brings you joy! That might mean a fluffy orange dress, sparkly heels, and giant sunglasses while dancing through the streets of Paris. But it can also mean a delicious blue sweater, the color of the ocean, and simple slacks. Or maybe it’s a a uniform but with funky earrings, or even a sassy or colorful bra and underwear set. Even if no one else sees it, you know it’s there, and you reap the joyful benefits. Hurray!